BlondePete’s guide to self-improvement for Tops and aspiring Tops. Covers safety, empathy, Bondage, Fisting, Pain and several other topics. Well worth a read.
Unless you try being a Top yourself you won’t realise the amount of hard work, planning and preparation that goes into a scene before, during and after, so do show a bit of appreciation and you might get asked back – There are a lot of subs about but very few Tops (and even fewer good ones!)
If you want to develop a relationship with a male as your sub, this is the most potent thing you can do. Take away his manhood. Whether for a long term relationship, or a casual hookup buddy, this will consistently work. (as long as you hold the key). At first he will hate it and love it.